Free For All Friday: Why Can't We All Just Get Along?

You never know what's going to be on my blog on Fridays. Could be something music related, a guest blog or an editorial about something that I'm passionate about. There will probably be a lot of editorials because I'm pretty passionate about just about everything I do. LOL.

Ladies, we need to stop hating on each other. It's hard enough out there for us as a gender - no matter our race, size, creed, age, financial situation etc. We are known for being petty and catty at any age, not just high school and that's shameful. It's 2015, ain't nobody got time for all the hatred and jealousy that we've got going on among us.

So what if your neighbor seemingly has it together? Celebrate that with her. You don't know what she's gone through to get to where she's at. It's easy to stay across the fence and whisper about all the men she had to sleep with to get to the head of her company. But what you don't know is that she's up to her ears in business school loans. And she's much more qualified than most of the men in her office but because she wouldn't sleep with the boss, she was held back longer than she should have been.

And how many of us have looked at a woman with a gaggle of kids at the store and went into a tirade about single mothers having more kids than they need and how we the tax payers pay for them? We're so busy passing judgement that we don't notice how well behaved the kids are. And what we don't know is that her husband works hard to take care of them so she can stay home and raise their children.

We need to start empowering each other instead of tearing each other down. We need to invite the business woman over for a glass of wine (or beer) and congratulate her success and ask her what her secret is. Notice how well behaved those babies are and compliment the mom on how well she's doing. You'd be amazed at how much of a difference your positive attitude will make in their day.

I have another subcategory of this that we need to discuss. My big girls - listen up. We especially need to stop the hate. And I'm not talking of skinny girls. I'm talking about each other. There's a new explosion of who's sexier - the BBWs or the SSBBWs. I've seen conversations about what really constitutes a BBW. I've even seen "that b*tch doesn't have enough curves to be in our league."

Ladies. Really? I mean, I'm one of the original SSBBWs so I get it. I get that it's about feeling sexy in your own body. But have we really let our self esteem get so bad that we're making other BBWs feel bad about themselves so we can feel good about us?

We get discriminated against enough, the last thing we need to do is implode as a subculture. If you see a BBW rockin' a dress, let her know. You know how good you feel when someone does it to you so return the favor.

And look, we have a good time making skinny chick jokes. We do that because of this perceived notion that they do it us. Don't get me wrong, I know that some do. But here's something I've learned, they have their own body image issues. When we are truly happy with our bodies, that makes other people jealous because they have the body type that society deems sexy and they hate it. So ease up a little. You don't know what demons they're fighting or why they feel the need to lash out.

Here's the thing. We're women. Smart. Fierce. A force to be reckoned with. Right now is the best time in history to be a woman. We have more rights and power than we ever have. Hillary Clinton ran for President and was taken seriously. Women are making huge moves. And yet, we're weakened because we're too busy going at each other's throats. Gabby Douglas was the first African - American to win gold as a gymnast and people tore her apart because of her hair. Are you kidding me? We have the power to change things. Can you imagine what we could accomplish if we got together and worked towards the same goal?
Yes, we're emotional creatures. But lets use that emotional energy for good instead of against each other. If we did that, we'd move mountains.